the babe

If you ever manage to find a woman who can truly put up with your crap, keep her.

My wife and I have been married for 7 years and 4 months.

We dated for over 2 years before were engaged, and as we all know, weddings take a year and a half to plan. You would think that in roughly four years time she would have been able to find herself a better mate. Thank God she didnt.

Things you should know.

The babe is intelligent.
She is patient.
The babe does not like to argue.
I call her the babe for a reason, and it isnt rude in any way in my opinion.
We regularly recieve phone calls from distraught parents asking the babe what they should do with thier kids. ( she teaches kindergarten, and is extremely extremely good at it.)
My wife has an understanding of kids that most of the rest of us will never, ever be able to duplicate.


But at 21 years old I didnt know any of that.

What i did know was that this girl was cute. she was fun. she was smart. and because we had mutual friends, i always seemed to run into her in random places.

We started dating, youve all heard the story from there, it isnt much different than your own i imagine.

We have 2 wonderful boys, a nice home, and are generally sort of spoiled, which means that we also generally have more bills to pay than we'd like.

But the most important thing to understand about my wife is the fact that I dont think I would be able to maintain sanity without her. She is my personal rock, my babysitter, and my daily encouragement.

five years ago, she let me drag home a pickup truck. It was free for the taking, and i might have paid too much at the price. My father, the eagle, said it was not fixable. The professor told me to take it apart and get to work. For five entire years, Babe dealt with a garage full of old car parts, rust in the driveway, noise, frustration, (even cursing sometimes) and all of the other things that go along with someone who doesnt really know how to rebuild a car but is trying anyway.

She never got frustrated. She never got mad. She always supported what i was trying to do.

Thats the sort of thing that keeps a marriage going. I try each day to return the favor, sometimes i succeed, and other times not, but I hope that i win more than i lose. The interesting thing about marriage, i think, is that so many people forget about the permanence of it. Remember the vows that we traditionally make? They dont give you any outs. Divorce is not an option, which means that every so often, when things arent great, you need to remind yourself of the reasons that you got together with this person, and the things that are really important anyway.

I think you will find that anything you think is worth fighting about; isnt. anything that is worth hurting somebody you're with; isnt. The world is full of enough crap as it is.

did you know that the majority of splits are caused by money issues? Of all the things on the planet. Why would you ever let something so trivial become so important?

go give your wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, ferret, dog, cat, whatever a hug.
Greg